War of the Wedding Planners

Good Morning America has got the wedding florists, bakers and photographers of the world up in arms with their most recent piece with “tips to save money” on your wedding.

There and plenty of reasons to point out how one particular planner is incorrect (for example simply adding a vase to a centerpiece does not add $100 per table and high school photographers are not an option if you are “on a budget”, but still want a professional experience!), however, the thing that strikes me the most is how wedding planners (who brings their own price tag to the table!) are creating an atmosphere of fear by playing off of the emotions of engaged couples who may want a beautiful wedding day, but don’t want to get ripped off.

Here’s the truth: there’s a vendor for every budget.  I am not a floral designer that can serve any budget.  There are photographers who charge $10,000 for their work and there are some who charge $1,200.  If your budget does not allow for the $10K florist or photographer, there are options.

Most couples cannot afford the most expensive vendors and high-end vendors don’t exist to make you feel badly if you cannot afford them.  They simply serve a different clientele/market.

The bottom line in my opinion is this: Planners who perpetuate the myth that they can save you money by omitting vases and suggesting “grazing stations” for your cattle…I mean guests…are liars.  Plain and simple.

Wedding planners who are worth their salt know that a beautiful wedding is an investment.

When you are on a budget the first place to start is by planning a small wedding. Plan for less than 50 guests if you want to save money.  It’s much smarter than planning for 150 guests and serving dinner in a trough with ragweed centerpieces and a photographer who pulls up on a skateboard.


  • Athena Rork

    April 19, 2014 at 6:58pm ·

    Here, here! 🙂

  • Kat - Kingdom Wedding Photography

    June 16, 2014 at 6:44pm ·

    Couldn’t agree more with you – it’s about prioritizing. We opted to elope because we were broke at the time, didn’t even try to entertain our extended family for the little money we had. And that’s fine. Everybody has a budget and prioritizes accordingly. Some couples are ok with DIY’ing their music, others want a dance party and invest in a kicking wedding DIY. There are vendors for every type of wedding couple but it is indeed funny [sad funny] to read/hear from those vendors who themselves make a fair amount of money tell people that the rest of us are out there to rip them off.

  • Kate

    August 25, 2014 at 11:57am ·

    This is so true !

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